Space. Love. Why not both?

This goes to all of you who are in relationship, or planning to be in one soon. I have heard, seen and talked on several relationships issues and most of the time, and I can tell you they all share the same common denominator. I claim to be no relationship expert, as im learning myself. But I do know one thing, men and women are different. VERY different.

I am speaking based on my observation on what I would call a typical family.Yes, any mom is no stranger to the Complain Department. Whilst, any dad is ur typical guy who sometimes, just want a break during the weekend. Imagine this, after 5 days of hard work, and probably countless hardcore nags from bosses, guys just wanna go home during weekend and read newspaper in the morning with peace mind. Women might think im bias, but hei.. if u have to know how important that is to guys, imagine how badly u want to have that ONE RED Ferragamo shoes to go with ur Chanel bag – YURP, THAT BAD.

Sometimes, in relationship.. we are bound to bump into some conflicts. Being very different in nature, usually the conflicts don’t get resolved. While women complain on almost everything, men just DON’T LISTEN. If you find yourselves being in this situation, well..dont worry. IT IS NORMAL. .

Heres what I think: first and foremost, I advocate open-communication, but not in any way this means sharing everything. You know what they say, CURIOSITY KILLS THE CAT. In this case, it might just kill u too. So women, u should know that sometimes when u don’t know something.. it means u don’t have to know. Does this mean they don’t love YOU? HELL NO. Guys don’t really like to talk. Deal with it. The thing is, it is not like the guy doesn’t want to talk to you, he just doesn’t TALK (A LOT). Guess who is living feeling miserable now? Yurp. U know the answer. My point is, if u choose to focus on one’s weakness, it is weaknesses u shall see then. Now, do I need to elaborate more? I don’t think so.

Secondly, when things get emotional.. stop arguing. People say stoopid things when they are angry, sad, or stressed ONLY TO REGRET LATER. So, whatever u have heard during fight, jot it down somewhere and ask the next time u two engage in a conversation. Chances are, men won’t even remember what they uttered during the fight, but unfortunately for you.. women do. So guys, if u meant what u said, the girls deserve an explanation. But if it’s not true, and just out of rage and distress, try “IM SORRY”. It usually works for me.

Thirdly, apply this rule: NO ONE IS WRONG, BUT NO ONE IS RIGHT TOO. Simply put, whenever conversation is taking place, it is NOT to find who is at fault or proving who is right. I think, communication is just a tool, where both parties can express their feeling, love and dissatisfactions whenever needed. They key is, to LISTEN. Sometimes, women just need to be heard. So men, listen up. If you do not have any better words to say, DON’T. JUST LISTEN. I know u do not talk much, u do not share much, but please, DO LISTEN. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK? As for women, if ur men do listen, lucky you. But never push ur luck. You have to know, that just because he listens, that doesn’t mean he has to agree on everything u said. If that’s the case, u two need find out on what ground u two have in common, and go from there.
Last but not least, TRUST each other. I do not want to elaborate on this because you and I know what that means.


But then again, what do I know? U cannot seriously take a single guy’s words SERIOUSLY, can you?